Is size the only number that matters????

Check out these stats fellas:

# of children: 0
# of cars:  1
# of houses owned: 2
# of languages spoken: 3
Current Salary:  $125,000
Frequent Flyer miles:  Too many to count


I'm single, I've never been married, I'm funny, I love sports and everyone that meets me assumes that I'm married.  So why am I not married?  Let me give you another number:

Size:  16...

Today a man I was seeing told me that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship but he thought that I was a wonderful person.  I've heard this message repeatedly and you would think that it would be easier to hear, but it isn't.  Each time, I keep thinking to myself what am I doing wrong, why is it that I can have so much success in my career, but never in my romantic relationships?

At work, I can be a problem-solver, I can dazzle people with my wit and charm. At work, people care about what's on the inside.  Outside of work is this place where people judge your exterior, making decisions about who you are before you even open your mouth. 

I wish real life could be more like work...

So here goes...

So like many of you, I started this new year with some resolutions:  get organized, lose weight, travel, etc., etc., etc,..START MY BLOG...and so here we are!

I have never been a big fan of personal blogs, I often feel that people are a bit too self-absorbed and don't nearly go deep enough for it to be really personal(sometimes for good reason).  This blog will correct both of those issues as 1) I've been knocked down enough in this world to truly know it's not all about me and 2) Being completely honest with total strangers is one of my many character flaws.

I am single, but I wouldn't say I am loving it or loathing it, I am just taking it is at is.  Yes, I went through that whole "Oh my God, I'm not married, why won't anyone love me!" phase and glad to say I came out of it(although sometimes I regress). I also went through the "I don't need no man for nothing!" phase(really glad to be out of that one!)  At this point in my life, I have learned that the only thing in this world I can truly control is me.  Through all my relationships, the one constant has been me.  So I decided if I could really take a journey and figure out that constant, I could be prepared for all the other variables...So here we go!

Before we begin this journey, let's set some Ground Rules:
1)  This is not your typical "Go on girl", "Waiting to Exhale", "insert your favorite Tyler Perry movie" blog.  I am not against any of these, it's just that my experiences are much more complex than any of these characters.
2)  This blog will not make blanket generalities such as "Black Men do..." , "All men are...".  I am going to tell you about my own personal experiences and hopefully you can identify.  There are two sides to every story and I plan to examine both sides.
3)  This blog is going to be very, very candid in the hopes that I can get some very candid feedback.  So if you're not ready to be real, this blog may not be for you.